Leah Mullett Photography

disconnect

something i’ve always been so interested in is self improvement books, and all together … self growth. its very important to me to live my life to the fullest everyday. i guess its part of the territory when you’re a deep thinker and analyzing everything. sometimes it can be difficult to always be searching for answers and wondering things like why we do this and why do i feel this way. curious george had it rough. ha. just kidding. although it can be frustrating at times, i’m happy that i search for answers, i think it helps me grow as an individual.

as a photographer, its very easy to look at others work and easily get down on yourself. how do they do that? why can’t i do that? someone help me figure that out! i do get asked a lot if i went to school for photography but i’m actually all self taught. which can definitely be hard at times but very rewarding once you figure it out. but more so what this post is about is just how we can be easier on ourselves by understanding why we do things and also how to improve our lives and open our eyes to what we put in our life. unnecessary stress. lets just take a look at facebook. ohhhh facebook. i have had a love hate relationship with you since my college days. my dear friend katie introduced me to it. i remember sitting in the cafeteria before our interior design classes and she said, “you should get a facebook” … at the time, i had never heard of it and was like okay seriously what in the world is facebook. face-book. sounds like the dumbest thing ever. and then she showed me. and i was loving it. oh you know … i was totally one of those poeple that updated my status every two minutes, “just got home” …. “going for a walk” …. doing this doing that. i can honestly say i never really put a lot of personal stuff on there but more so what i was doing all day everyday. and then i got sick of it. i got sick of everyone knowing and then i became angry at the whole thing. if people want to see what i look like and what i’m doing, then be apart of my life, not just read up on me on facebook. But its a love hate relationship. i do love keeping up with friends and family … not to mention i have received a lot of business of the thing. its a great way to meet new people and also show off my photographs and book new clients who later lead to friends! so what to do?!

all these ideas and frustrations have been brought on to me by a self growth book i have been reading. and i highly recommend. i was reading it one day with my head hung in shame because of how true it is. we are addicted to the internet and being connected all the time. i’m totally guilty of that and because this is my blog (photography and personal) i want to share that with you, because i know so many of my blog readers struggle with the same things. weather we admit it or not. do you always have your phone with you?! do you ever shut it off and just say i’m not accepting phone calls for the next two hours? spend time with your husband? children? or in my case, dog? its sad. i take my laptop everywhere. get bored on my iphone and look up facebook just so i can read up on other people’s lives that i don’t even know.

part of the reason why this is so easy for me to discuss is because i have changed it all and am on the other side now. well, work in progress. i haven’t been working at night lately, bringing my laptop up north on the weekends, i very rarely check facebook anymore and haven’t been putting my life on there, I sometimes I shut the phone off when i’m not working and or need to spend time with someone i love … and guess what … its been amazing and a real eye opener for me.

so the book that brought this all about and let me just say, i highly suggest reading this! Whats awesome is its actually FREE! and although this is using a electronic … its for a good thing so I would say just download it on your computer or your phone (i have it on my iphone) and sit down and read it without interruption. the author also has a blog that i read everytime he posts on it and its so rewarding. he’s an amazing writer. you can download the book HERE and his blog is HERE. i even bought one of Leo Barbara’s books a year ago and never read it (because life got too busy) but have made a point to read it now that i stumbled upon this and it was such an eye opener for me.

i hope i made sense to you guys about the facebook thing and didn’t offend anyone. i love meeting new people and have some pretty great friends that i met through there. one being a girlfriend i have now that we actually met for coffee after chatting on facebook! its an amazing tool. and i meet so many of my brides on there. i just want to point out that we shouldn’t be so addicted to these things and always being connected. i think everyone has a relationship in their life that would benefit if we DISCONNECTED every once in a while. Let me know what you think though, I’m interested to hear some feedback.

Perfection does not exist – you can always do better and you can always grow.

On a personal note … i just got back from a week trip to Las Vegas, San Diego, and Phoenix. It was a “business trip” but I did find some time in there to have some fun 😉 can’t wait to blog about it soon.

xoxo

Leah

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  1. Monday, January 24th, 2011
    oh leah...this is so true! my husband just said to me last night! quit talking to your virtual friends because i am here and i am real! puts things into perspective! thanks for sharing and someday we will meet and you can have the coffee and i will have some diet coke:)
  2. Monday, January 24th, 2011
    I totally agree, I had that thought latley and actually i deleted my facebook a couple weeks ago, its been so nice. I dont need to know if someone just drank a cup of coffee or is at subway. Its helped me focus on my life and the relationships in it. It was hard cause its a great business tool but it was for the best. I've never been happier :) It was a big step but its great that your even just trying to spend more time away from it!
  3. Matt
    Tuesday, January 25th, 2011
    GREAT POST!!!! I have been able to enjoy the benefits first hand of your "disconnect" and would urge anyone who is on the fence about it to just give it a try. You will enjoy the positive results in your personal relationships (that matter most). Keep up the great work!! 2011 will be the best year yet
  4. Wednesday, January 26th, 2011
    I just started reading Focus and loving it. LOVING the entire philosophy, and what it can do for my life, to clear it away and get MORE enjoyment and fulfillment everyday. I can't wait to see what it does. I may have to blog about this experience later, hopefully you don't mind. Thank you so much for sharing that book here. I think this is exactly what we all need right now. Photographers, especially, are ON 24/7 and it's insane. I have a family... what am I doing answering emails at 11 PM?!
  5. Wednesday, January 26th, 2011
    I'm SOOO HAPPY you guys have found this helpful in your situations! I means the world to me and I will continue to blog things that are that close to my heart in my personal life. Its also nice to read that others feel the same way and have the same struggles!