Like most mothers of one, I’m nervous to bring a new baby home and to make sure Levi doesn’t feel any animosity towards the new little one, and still gets attention from me even though I’m going to have my hands full with a baby latched to my boob every two seconds I’m sure.
I’ve been reaching out to friends and family, along with friends on instagram for tips & tricks to make number ONE go from only child with all the attention to sharing mom and dad with a baby and have gotten some great advice! So I put them all together and wanted to share! I of course am still nervous and will be until we’re there, which is any day now … but this list is making me feel much better about it. So hopefully it helps some of you mama’s in the same boat! And PLEASE if you have any tips you would like to share if you’re an expert, I would LOVE to try them!
1. Letting Levi HELP with the baby. changing diapers, getting baby dressed, burping [scary I know], etc. Levi is only 17 months as of today, so I’m not sure how interested he’ll be in helping but its worth a shot and you never know! Definitely a great idea if your first is a little bit older and “independent”. I know my niece would do great with this. She loves to help.
2. Keep your rituals! Loved this one! I think this one is going to be huge for us. Levi is very much a routine baby [yes, he is still a baby in my eyes. I refuse to call him a toddler] … So making sure he still gets his same routine at night and in the mornings will be key I think!
3. Taking care of yourself is a great tip that will help you be the best mom you can be to both children. And rest = more energy! I need to remember that.
4. Read while breastfeeding. Make sure to give them attention while feeding the babe so they don’t feel left out.
5. When newborn is napping, make sure to enjoy that one on one with number one! And then the opposite! I’m not sure when I’ll clean or do laundry … that stuff can always wait right?! [Oh dear]
6. Have a special toy basket for your older child while you feed the second babe. Love this!
7. Make sure they still feel important + work up the excitement about being a big brother or sister
8. Purchase a big brother or big sister book
9. Try to push the “BIG” boy or girl comments so that when baby is here, they can start to understand the differences between a baby and a big boy/girl. Which will make them feel way cool.
10. Go on a date day/night with number one every so often. I’m thinking every other week would be nice. Levi will obviously have a lot of one on one time with Matthew, but I want to make sure he has this with me still too. So although I’ll be breastfeeding, I’m going to try to plan a few “dates” with my first little man. Weather it is to a park, playground of some sort, even my sister’s sand box [huge hit], or perhaps swimming this summer with other friends. Just to devote all my attention to him.
And speaking of dates, one of our favorite dates is walks to the ice cream shop! I mean … if you walk there it doesn’t count right?! And can I just note that I am even wearing JEANS at almost 40 weeks pregnant?! SAYYY WHAAATTTT?!?!? I know, I know … insane. Even with my super swollen legs + feet. Long story short, my first pregnancy I refused to buy “maternity jeans” … I felt like they were all dorky and I could totally make non maternity jeans work. I even went out and bought a size up and just wore bella bands, rubber bands holding my pants shut, or my favorite … just letting the zipper hang wide open and dig into the bottom of my belly. I made it to about 34 weeks and then my mom got sick of hearing me complain about it and surprised me with my first pair. And holy cow was I so mad at myself I wasted so much time! The ones she got me weren’t the most stylish but with this pregnancy I’ve done some searching and found some super fun/stylish maternity jeans and am so so in love with them. So comfy! Truth: I have no plans to go back to regular jeans. I kid, I kid … orrrrr doooo iiiiii …..
Like all my fun comfy maternity maxi’s, these jeans are from PinkBlush Maternity online. I actually ordered the perfect size from the git go. Just order your normal pre-pregnancy size and they should work. Make sure you read what the jean material is too. The girls at PinkBlush helped me by mentioning if it contains more cotton, it tends to be a little bit tighter with less stretch. Might be obvious but I wasn’t reading them prior so I’m so glad she mentioned that. So all mama’s to be out there, please invest in some maternity jeans! You will never regret it, and you don’t need a ton of pairs. One or two and cycle that in with some maxi’s, leggings, yoga pants, and you’ll be golden for 10 months.
So there you have it. Maternity jeans are the s*** and tips I’ll be trying for the next few months! I’m going to try to loose the baby weight faster this go around BUT … I should probably stick to my tips list and still do #10 and walk to the ice cream shop with Levi, right?!?! Again, it doesn’t count if you walk. True story. I’ll be sure to let you guys know how it is going, and as always … I’ll be completely honest. Nothing goes perfect, but hopefully this will help it go a little smoother! What are your tips & tricks mama’s of 2 or more?!